Wanted Mom...!!!

I have read and heard much of mother's love. I have experienced the pure unconditional love from my mother, but have always not felt myself at par with the benchmark mothers. I have always felt I need to grow up in many ways, to reach the bench mark. Even now I am far from the bench mark, but have started realising one thing, that I enjoy being a mom.
Grown up kids. You don't have to keep chastising and feel bad for the same. You can talk in the direct language, no simplification, no dilution needed in words and content. They can understand you. We should only know how much to tell, how long to tell. The longer your speech, the more tired they are to listen. Once you are precise in your diction and effective in presentation, you are heard, you are understood. What else you need as a parent. This doesn't need a training as such, but only pure love, unconditional love.
When the innate love in you is pure and vibrant, you won't complicate your words and toughen your stands. Not all days are dark or the whole day is dark. Light and darkness do alternate each other. Hence when you feel a day was hard with your kid, dont try to resolve it the same day. Give it a day or two. IT would be stressful to put up with odd behaviour patterns with children. But after you convey your dissatisfaction wait not only for them to melt down, but you yourself to calm down and get the balance. Once we understand thiese intricasies we can pass this phase smoothly.
Tholukku Minjinaal Thozhan is a Tamil saying which means once your child grows above your shoulders they are your friends.They really are!!! Would anyone want to lose that friend? All parents need to remember this, that they are your close friends and not your wards any more, share your ups and downs with them, that will urge them to share theirs with you. Give them the feeling that you are not going to bark and bite them for the worst of mistakes lest they should not open up at all. That is a bad state of affairs. Let them talk their heart, let them talk their mind. They may utter shocking things, you may not want to hear but you cannot let them bottle up those emotions. You need to know their mind, unless you let them talk how will they open up.
Let them have their privacy but don't let them develop secrecy. All these are not just ideals. These are possible, when you give them long rope and let them enjoy all they wish with in that rope.Once you lose controlnand shout or hit, they are not innocent enough to respect you still. The Generation Next has  a lot of self esteem, self confidence and self worth. It is not like our parents who followed 'spare the rod and spoil the kid' formula.
Once all these are taken care of and you try to be a friendly parent, you are the most wanted. I bet you. The pure love that exudes from the heart's depth cannot be veiled, will not be distorted until it reaches the target - your dearest friend, your daughter or son.
Not only emotional support, they look upon you for a lot of physical support in the sense they demand your physical effort, in terms of variety of food. The world is full of junk food and is also full of the knowledge that junk food is not good. Hence they know not to indulge in it too much. So they want you to attend to their palate lavishly.
Theyu demand openly. feel good you are 'wanted'. Try and chisel your culinary skills. Your love will bring the best in you I am sure. Don't feel lazy to explore your kitchen. Dont pick the word 'slog' to describe your status. Enjoy the chore. Your children will definitely give you a break when you need. Once in a while, when you are too tired they will adjust with the stuff you feed and will not forget that their mom is the best waiter for them. Giving them a break with ordered food will also help occasionally.
It is very important for a mom to be healthy - mentally, emotionally and physically to cope with the new age kids' needs. Hence appeal all my friends out there to keep a healthy mind, body and soul to give the best generation next.

Autowala - the Mr. Reliable in Mumbai

One of the salient features of Mumbai, that adds to the better life style is her very own 'auto rickshaw walas'.
Characteristics of a model auto driver is as follows:

1. They are innumerable, you hardly meet the same person again in your life time. You can add it as the wonders of India. Past 17 years I have been in this beautiful land but pondering back, every time I hire an auto it is a new person, not even once, glanced a familiar face, but in general they behave as one. Ask yourself every one and see, you wouldn't have met the same auto driver again even after many days and months. This is something unique.
2. You hardly find anyone talking politics or current affairs with the passenger.
3. Their first motive is customer satisfaction.
4. They dont need a penny more from their customers. They are the most clean servants of the society in Independent India. Our corrupt officers and politicians can take lessons from them. The most self esteemed persons. No equal to this quality of theirs. They leave you absolutely convinced about every paisa that you render to them. It is a matter of convincing themselves of getting the right amount rather than convincing us. Who sowed this righteouness in them? I have heard punctuality is ingrained in a Japanese train driver, they give their lives for being in time. Can we compare these rickshaw walas to them, though a little high, let them be held high, they are different.
5. Widely knowledgable about various destinations. 
6. Very safe and faster.
7. If it is officially double charge time, they tell you before they take you. They are not used to fighting later. 
8. Their meters are 99.9999% accurate. Same distance different autos demand same money, this is testimony to their honest meters.
9. They are in tune with the seasonal changes. They are ready with plastic coverings on either side to protect you from rains.
10. 90% of them dont grumble for their waiting for you. 

Most trust worthy person, once you are out from station, you hire an auto, you can be rest assured you are under safe hands. You tell where to go and you are taken very safely and charged honestly.

Thane Passport Office!!!

Tools of God are both animate and inanimate. Humans are no doubt tools of God, work for God without knowing that they are working for him. Yesterday, I had a wonderful experience in the passport office 'Passport Seva Kendra' Thane. I never expected it to be so systematic and orderly. Government offices though privatized cannot exist with out its original flavor, but this office has really undergone tremendous change. Hats off to the employees there.
Even the security personnel is well informed. They play a vital role in regulating the entry of public inside the office. Application and getting an appointment are both made online over the net, only after which you get an entry into the office. Once you enter, first of all, you have a queue, but it is not a never ending one as was the case in the former system. Only those who are wanted are there. The people who attend to you  are polite and friendly for a change.
I was in the tatkaal queue. Not even 25 minutes I had to wait for my turn. The young man who attended me was very good. They gave us proper response, proper instruction what to do, which was really gladdening in a govt. office. We were asked to wait behind in the line for our papers to be approved for tatkaal and the token be given.
10 minutes on and we were given the token. We were sent to the second level of screening, no sooner did we enter the waiting area our token number was on the monitor. Our counter was specified as A18. The youngster there, was very polite, took the needful with us, but when asked for the 10th passing certificate of Sindhu we got shocked. We were not at all aware that we need 10th certificate for ECNR, neither the website nor my husband's travel department who guided us told us of this. Hence I quickly decided to go home and get it. They were ok to proceed our papers when we came the same day, otherwise it would be put on hold till whenever we bring the document. Oh God it was so urgent, hence didnot waste time and rushed out. 5,6 autos went engaged or didnot stop for us. Somehow one boy stopped.
What I liked with that boy was that, when I said we have to be back to the same place in an hour, he was so optimistic. He took it quite easy and was confident of making it, but did not take it casually, he took it very seriously and drove us. For the first 10 minutes he took us in a strange route, I was a bit confused until we reached a familiar road. It was there that I realized he has brought us really closer than I expected and he could have done nothing better than this. Then I gained some courage and  became more hopeful. Auto's pick up is not a joke, they really strive hard to accelerate the vehicle, my God. Never bothered to think how fast an auto picks up speed, for the first time was moving with the auto.
Quickly grabbed the papers from home and rushed back to the rickshaw. Hope became brighter. The driver really drove us well in 20 minutes to the office. SAFE..! 10 minutes to 4 and we were there. The acknowledgement letter that they gave let us in quickly. The staff inside helped us get our token and reach the counter. A level got cleared well and were sent to B level, before even we were ready signing the papers our taken was called out. Surprising!!! Apart from the executives who attend to you on the counter there are a couple of bright youngsters regulating and guiding the public. They do a wonderful job.
Documents easily signed and we were asked to wait for C level, the granting zone. We hardly waited 10 minutes that we were called. Papers got signed even there and we were sent to the final cabin, to the officer who grants passport.
He was very good. He sanctioned the passport, sealed and sent us with a smile... Oh is this India?


Things are changing in India!!


Really surprised and happy about it. 


Tools of God are present at many places!!!